Yesterday, America chose fear, greed and evil over love, hope and faith. I’m not particularly political, but I do think a lot about the nature of fear. That’s my job as a HypnoBirthing teacher and doula. Fear is the enemy of a peaceful birth, but it is also the enemy of peaceful parenting.
How does fear feel in the body? For me, it is heavy, dark and static. Fear carries no action – it is stuck. Elizabeth Gilbert talks about the difference between fear and concern. What is concern? How does is feel? Concern is paying attention; it is not positive or negative but it is awake and aware. It feels lighter than fear doesn’t it? How do things change when we are concerned, but not fearful?
We choose holistic childbirth education classes because we want to be truly informed and educated.
We take time and effort to choose the kind of medical and non-medical support team that we know supports our birth choices.
We think about how we want our babies’ first minutes, hours and days to be, and plan accordingly.
We seek like minded people to form our village of support – in real life, or virtually.
We research topics like vaccines, circumcision and weaning to ensure we make the right choices for our children.
We think about the kind of childcare that best suits our babies, and later, the kind of education that will best foster well rounded, healthy and happy little minds and bodies.
We curate our spaces and time to match our values, philosophies and goals as an individual and a family.
We let go of things, wherever possible, that feed our fear.
We live in concerning times, my friends, on a macro and a micro level. But start where you are, at the very smallest unit of society – a family – and start paying attention. Choose concern over fear.